Recently, divorce has been increasing in a faster rate according to the divorce statistical outcome represented by the National Statistical Office last year. The number of divorces in Korea is 135,000 cases in 2001, 15,000 cases increase since the previous year. This represents that 370 couples have...
Recently, divorce has been increasing in a faster rate according to the divorce statistical outcome represented by the National Statistical Office last year. The number of divorces in Korea is 135,000 cases in 2001, 15,000 cases increase since the previous year. This represents that 370 couples have divorces and 877 couples have married annually. This divorce rate ranks third among the countries of OECD, and it astonished us greatly. We also have to consider the after-impact of divorce not only on the couples but also on the next generations and the society. When we count the number of the emotional divorce which means that a couple has emotionally broken up although physically living together, the actual divorce rate would be much higher. Therefore as we take into consideration the impact of broken families from the increasing rate of divorce, we have to find the alternative solutions to alleviate such problems. So this study is aimed for the women with divorce conflict to develop the ways of shifting the critical mass of various systems from negativity to positive and growth directed patterns. First of all, the Satir's theory which is applied in this study is very helpful for the woman with divorce conflict who has communication problems with her husband. According to the Satir's survival stances, this woman has blaming stance. Blaming stance is to discount others, counting only the self and the context. Satir added an awareness of the other person to blaming, like this woman, in order to foster assertiveness without blame or judgement. The belief of Satir is that human beings can fulfill what they are meant to fulfill that they can use themselves more positively, more effectively: and that they can have more choices for greater freedom and power. So the counselor helps the counselee find her resources and her ability for making choices based on her own high levels of self-esteem. Continually demonstrating acceptance and understanding instead of judging, the counselor needs to encourage the counselee to look with appreciation at all her inner parts, using those components to grow and become more fully human. So the counselor examines thee multi-generational learning of dysfunctional patterns, views them from a different perspective of present-day and transforms them. Therefore, the counselee can use her internal resources to move her lifestyles from the survival level to better coping and finally to healthier functioning. The 2nd theory of this study is the narrative psychotherapy in feminism. The other woman who researched in this case analysis has lost her own voice under the husband's violence and threat of aa divorce. The major part of the work of a narrative counseling is to help the counselee, like this woman, to generate new language and new interpretive lenses and thus create new realities. The counselor and the counselee work together to discover when the problem has more or less power. Finding the exceptions and exploring the meanings for the problematic story, the counselee is able to discover her own existing strengths and resources and recognize that this problem had a beginning and presumably can also have an end as well. Finally, it is compatible with a feminist orientation because it includes the deconstruction of stories generated by cultural and familial patriarchy. So the counselor works to be a curious, compassionate, interested advocate on behalf of the counselee, who is figuring out how to resist the power of problematic ways of understanding her life and how to restory positive meaning-making elements of her life that will help her to live her life more abundantly and less problematically. As a result of the narrative counseling, the counselee is able to have more power in her inner life and rediscover her own voice. She learns to recognize that she can also decide to divorce as her better choice in her life, not just follow the husband's decision. Finally, she can become the master in her life and take responsibilities of her own choices. In the matter of divorce, we as open-mined pastoral counselor should accept and understand those women with divorce conflicts. We should make a commitment in preventing a divorce and recovering broken families as much as we can. However, if the dignity of human being given by God were taken away and destroyed by the husband, the pastoral counselor, advocating the weak with all possible ways, helps the woman regain her own voice. Therefore, the pastoral counselor must accept a divorce as one way of solving couple conflicts for those who do not have any other options but the divorce.
Recently, divorce has been increasing in a faster rate according to the divorce statistical outcome represented by the National Statistical Office last year. The number of divorces in Korea is 135,000 cases in 2001, 15,000 cases increase since the previous year. This represents that 370 couples have divorces and 877 couples have married annually. This divorce rate ranks third among the countries of OECD, and it astonished us greatly. We also have to consider the after-impact of divorce not only on the couples but also on the next generations and the society. When we count the number of the emotional divorce which means that a couple has emotionally broken up although physically living together, the actual divorce rate would be much higher. Therefore as we take into consideration the impact of broken families from the increasing rate of divorce, we have to find the alternative solutions to alleviate such problems. So this study is aimed for the women with divorce conflict to develop the ways of shifting the critical mass of various systems from negativity to positive and growth directed patterns. First of all, the Satir's theory which is applied in this study is very helpful for the woman with divorce conflict who has communication problems with her husband. According to the Satir's survival stances, this woman has blaming stance. Blaming stance is to discount others, counting only the self and the context. Satir added an awareness of the other person to blaming, like this woman, in order to foster assertiveness without blame or judgement. The belief of Satir is that human beings can fulfill what they are meant to fulfill that they can use themselves more positively, more effectively: and that they can have more choices for greater freedom and power. So the counselor helps the counselee find her resources and her ability for making choices based on her own high levels of self-esteem. Continually demonstrating acceptance and understanding instead of judging, the counselor needs to encourage the counselee to look with appreciation at all her inner parts, using those components to grow and become more fully human. So the counselor examines thee multi-generational learning of dysfunctional patterns, views them from a different perspective of present-day and transforms them. Therefore, the counselee can use her internal resources to move her lifestyles from the survival level to better coping and finally to healthier functioning. The 2nd theory of this study is the narrative psychotherapy in feminism. The other woman who researched in this case analysis has lost her own voice under the husband's violence and threat of aa divorce. The major part of the work of a narrative counseling is to help the counselee, like this woman, to generate new language and new interpretive lenses and thus create new realities. The counselor and the counselee work together to discover when the problem has more or less power. Finding the exceptions and exploring the meanings for the problematic story, the counselee is able to discover her own existing strengths and resources and recognize that this problem had a beginning and presumably can also have an end as well. Finally, it is compatible with a feminist orientation because it includes the deconstruction of stories generated by cultural and familial patriarchy. So the counselor works to be a curious, compassionate, interested advocate on behalf of the counselee, who is figuring out how to resist the power of problematic ways of understanding her life and how to restory positive meaning-making elements of her life that will help her to live her life more abundantly and less problematically. As a result of the narrative counseling, the counselee is able to have more power in her inner life and rediscover her own voice. She learns to recognize that she can also decide to divorce as her better choice in her life, not just follow the husband's decision. Finally, she can become the master in her life and take responsibilities of her own choices. In the matter of divorce, we as open-mined pastoral counselor should accept and understand those women with divorce conflicts. We should make a commitment in preventing a divorce and recovering broken families as much as we can. However, if the dignity of human being given by God were taken away and destroyed by the husband, the pastoral counselor, advocating the weak with all possible ways, helps the woman regain her own voice. Therefore, the pastoral counselor must accept a divorce as one way of solving couple conflicts for those who do not have any other options but the divorce.
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